The Benefits of Living Off the Grid

Everything you have done as you choose to live off the grid will be paid for in the end. This way of life comes with challenges but it also has lots of benefits that will really make you happy and proud of yourself once you are able to achieve success.

Before you learn the benefits of living off the grid, you should focus first on the top reasons why you must prefer to spend your life in this way. These reasons will motivate you to do whatever it takes just to reap the advantages in the end.

The Top 10 Reasons to Live Off the Grid

• To become more aware of the environment


• To have a more independent lifestyle not only for yourself but for your loved ones as well


• To feel security as you are far from the concerns associated with the busy city


• To learn how to become the master of your own fate


• To obtain a simple and more satisfying way of life


• To learn how to produce your own foods


• To achieve a kind of life that is totally free from debt and learn how to be prudent


• To understand that regardless of what may happen to the world, your own family is ready


• To learn how you will be able to live off the land


• To become an example to your children and give them a bequest of independence

When you follow these reasons with all of your heart, you will meet success and you will attain the benefits of the grid way of life. 

These advantages are the following:

• Reduced cost of energy – when you prefer to spend your life in this way, the cost of your monthly electrical bill will drop significantly. The truth is, in some instances, the electric company might even cut you a check.


• Freedom from being dependent on the utility grid- You will not have constant reliance on the utility grid. Other people believe that the grid will never be available forever. It will never happen and that is true.


• Reduced risk of climate-related incidence of power loss – if the weather becomes funky, power may still be available. But, when a powerful storm hits your location, the power grid will be affected and it will lose its capacity to produce and provide power. That’s the right time to use alternative sources of energy.


• Lots of home design choices – most designs of houses today could be off the grid. While these homes are typically smaller, it will not be the case at all times. The grid way of living is not simply something that folks on this planet do. Though, these home styles are energy-efficient and excellent choices so you may desire to look into them.


• Increased knowledge about the environment- You’ll get a completely new education when you choose to live off the grid. Managing the alternative power systems, living in a simpler way and learning the most effective ways to save provide a hands-on education that you will never get wholly from the books. Most of the off the grid homestead dwellers think of this way of life as a life choice and not as a way their house is designed.


• Reduced carbon footprint – your carbon footprint will be diminished once you live off the grid. You can determine how much your carbon footprint is by using a carbon footprint calculating tool.

So now that you have learned everything about living off the grid, are you ready enough to face the challenge? If you are 100% sure then take it!

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

https://msha.ke/yolabastos/

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

How Important Is It to Live in the Here and Now

What do you mean by living in the here and now? It means that you are not thinking about your past and not worrying about the future. If you are living in the present, you are living in the life of reality. Your past and future are only illusions.

To live in the present means that you are ready to face the world. Since you are not depending on your past, you will always be contented with your present life.

If you are still sealed with your past, here are the best things you can do to live in the present:

Being Present

• Be Conscious of Your Surroundings and Stop Beating Yourself Up- If you are aware of your surroundings, you don’t have to think about your past life. It means that your attention will be on your present situation. You also need to smile and congratulate yourself for everything you have done.


• Remove Unwanted Possessions – If you don’t want to live in the past, you have to remove all the things to forget them. Then, start living in the present by focusing on the things you need to do.


• Forgive Past Hurts – If you are still attached to your past situations, it is hard for you to face the reality and your present situation. So, make sure that you choose to forgive and move on. Though the harm is there, you have to take action to ensure that it will never affect your present moods and activities.


• Dream for Your Future while Working Hard Today - There is nothing wrong if you dream big. What matters most is what you are doing at present to fulfil your dreams. So, start setting goals and plan for your future.


• Stop Worrying – Unlike others, you will never appreciate the beauty of life if you keep on worrying too much. Take note that tomorrow is another day. Whether you worry about it or not, things will happen.

Living in the present is not as easy as you think. This is often observed if one cannot easily forget the things that happened in the past. The past teaches everything you need to know. With your past, you learned from your mistakes and make your life even more effective than before. Your future, on the other hand, is the result of your present actions.

Planning for the future means taking on board the things that you want to happen. Why do you need to live in the present? Living in the present means that you are aware of your present situation, but with a commitment to the future and an appreciation of your past. Through this, it is easy for you to manage your life. You can plan a strategy to create a positive way to get what you really want.

If you are facing hardship in life, it is easy for you to solve it. In case you have a huge company, you can also decide which skills need to be implemented and how to handle your business. Living in the present also allows you to appreciate the things and people around you. If you are focusing on your past or future alone, expect that you will never enjoy your life. You will also neglect the things that you need to do.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

https://msha.ke/yolabastos/

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

Prosperity Knowledge

The more you understand about the unknown the more you really comprehend how little you understand. It makes you modest and brings you back to the domain of wonders, miracles and magic. A domain in which everything is conceivable.

Please study this article with a wide-open mind. You don't have to trust everything that's written here – simply explore as a scientist would do. When you hit a passage that's hard to grasp, take a break and ponder it a while. Let your mind process this fresh information. Read this article a couple of times, take your time and produce your own experiences.

Those who truly want to attain a financially free mindset, have only to set their minds on it and acquire the proper means, as they do in relation to any other aim which they want to achieve, and it can be easily done. But however simple it might be to make revenue, I have no doubt many will agree it's the hardest thing in the world to hold on to it.

It consists merely in spending less than we bring in; that appears to be a really simple issue. A lot of my readers might say, “we comprehend this: this is the mindset, and we know mindset is wealth; we know we can’t eat our cake and have it as well.”

The Basics

True mindset is misconceived, and individuals go through life without properly grasping what that principle is.
One says, “I've an income of so much, and here is my neighbour who has the same; yet yearly he flourishes and I fall short; why is it? I understand all about mindset.” He thinks he does, but he doesn't.

There are women & men who believe that mindset consists in scrimping, in cutting off two cents from the washing bill and doing all sorts of little, mean things. Mindset isn't meanness. The misfortune is, likewise, that this class of individuals let their mindset apply in only one direction. They fancy they're so wonderfully frugal in saving a penny where they should spend two cents that they think they can afford to waste in other directions.

Before kerosene oil was exposed, one might stop overnight at nearly any farmer’s house and get a really good supper, but after supper, he may attempt to read in the living room and would find it impossible with the ineffective light of one candle.

The hostess, seeing his quandary, would state: “it's rather hard to read here evenings; we never have an additional candle except on special occasions." These special occasions happen, perhaps, twice a year. In that way the woman saves 5, 6, or 10 dollars: but the information which may be gained from having the extra light would, naturally, far outweigh a ton of candles.

But the difficulty doesn't end here. Feeling that she is so frugal in candles, she believes she can afford to go often to spend 20 or 30 dollars for ribbons and frills, many of which are not essential. This false belief may frequently be seen in other instances.

You find great businesswomen/men who save old envelopes and scraps of paper. This is all OK; they might in this way save 5 or 10 dollars a year, but being so frugal (only on paper), they believe they can afford to squander time; by having expensive parties, and driving their fancy cars. This is an illustration of “penny wise and pounds foolish.” I never knew a man to succeed by applying this sort of mindset.

A true sound financial mindset consists in always making the profit exceed the expenditure. Wear the old clothes a bit longer if essential; give up the new pair of gloves; fix the old dress: exist on plainer food if need be; so that, under all conditions, unless some unexpected accident happens, there will be an allowance in favour of the profit.

A penny here and a dollar there saved goes on accumulating, and in that way, the desired result is accomplished. It requires some training, possibly, to achieve this mindset, but when once used to it, you'll discover there's more satisfaction in rational saving than in irrational spending.

Here is a formula which I advocate: I've found it to work as a great cure for extravagance, and particularly for mistaken mindset. When you find that you've no surplus money at the end of the year, and yet have a great income, I advise you to take a couple of pieces of paper and mark down each item of expenditure.

Post it daily or weekly in 2 columns, one headed “essentials” or even “comforts”, and the other headed “luxuries,” and you'll discover that the latter column will be double, or more, larger than the former. The true comforts of life cost but a small portion of what most of us may earn.

Think of the keep up with the Jones attitude: One may say; “there's a man who has an income of fifty thousand dollars annually, while I have but one thousand dollars; I knew that young man when he was poor like myself; now he's wealthy and thinks he's better than I am; I'll show him that I'm as good as he is; I will go and purchase a fancy car; no, I can't do that, but I'll go and rent one and ride this afternoon on the same road that he does, and therefore prove to him that I'm as good as he is.”

My friend, you don't have to do all that; you may easily prove that you are “as good as he is;” you've only to behave as well as he does, but you can't make anybody feel that you're rich as he is. Also, if you act like this, and waste your time and spend your income, you'll remain poor, in order that you might keep up “appearances,” and, after all, deceive nobody.

You’ll not advance in the world if your envy forces you into debt. In this country, where we believe the majority ought to rule, we brush aside that principle in reference to style, and let a handful of individuals, calling themselves the aristocracy, run up a fake standard of perfection, and in striving to rise to that standard, we perpetually keep ourselves poor; all the time grinding away for the sake of outside appearances.

How much more sensible to say, “We’ll regulate our expenditures by our income, and save something for a rainy day.” Individuals should be as sensible on the issue of money as on any other subject. Like movements produce like effects. You can't accumulate a fortune by taking the road that leads to impoverishment. Those who live beyond their means, with no thought of a setback in this life, may never attain monetary independence.

Men and women used to satisfy every impulse will find it difficult, initially, to cut back their various unnecessary expenses, and will feel it a great denial to live in a little home than they've been accustomed to, with less expensive furniture, less pricy clothing, less entertainment, and additional extravagances; but, after all, if they'll try saving a “nest-egg,” or judiciously investing, they'll be surprised at the joy from perpetually adding to their little “bundle”.

The old suit, and the old hat, will work for another season; the water tastes better than champagne; a brisk walk will prove more stimulating than a ride in the finest auto; an evening spent playing a family game will be far more pleasant than a 50 dollar night out, when you begin to know the pleasures of saving.

Thousands of women & men are kept poor, and tens of thousands are made so after they've acquired riches, as a result of living beyond their means. “Easy come, easy go,” is an old and true adage. A spirit of pridefulness and vanity, when allowed to have full sway, is the undying problem.

Many individuals, as they set out to prosper, instantly start spending for luxuries, till in a short time their expenses eat up their income, and they become ruined in their absurd attempts to maintain appearances.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

https://msha.ke/yolabastos/

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

Practical Stress Busting Secrets

If you take a look around the world, you'll see that stress, tension, and anxiety impact just about every single one of us. Regardless of who admits to it or not.

Let me ask you a few questions...

• Have you been late to work recently? Did your boss come in and give you crap because he's in a bad mood and you're an easy target? Did you get loads of work dumped on you by others, causing you more stress?


• Have you parked your car somewhere only to find some jerk hit your car with a shopping cart, or some inconsiderate person decided to “key” your car for no reason?


• Have you had to deal with rude customers or people in life, and they've made you feel lousy about yourself through the process?


• Have you been bothered by bill collectors or other debts that are nagging at you day in and day out?


• Are you feeling overwhelmed all around in many different aspects of your life?

If you answered yes to any of those, you're not the only one, at all. Unfortunately, whether you approve of it or not, the world is definitely NOT a fair place. And in many cases, it's not a nice one either. Some even think that it's becoming worse as years go on.

So... why is that?

Well, to put it simply, our lives are growing more fast-paced and action-packed, and because of that, many of us aren't able to learn just how to cope with it. After all, nobody really teaches us HOW to deal with stressors or daily life. In a way, we're just left to power through the issues and drama of every day, all on our own. It doesn't matter what religion, race, gender, age, or anything that you are.

Stress and anxiety hit all of us, and we all deal with them in different ways. There's certainly no shortage of books on the manner and topics of dealing with stress and anxiety. Many even look to the teachings of the Dalai Lama for guidance. In one of his books, he addresses the question of “How do we solve the great atrocities and wars that we face in today's society?” to which he simply responds with “I do not know” and leaves it at that.

One of the points he proceeds to discuss is that there's no simple and straightforward answer to this kind of question. This is because most of the major wars were due to one consequence that unfolded into another, and so on. Until it compounded into a situation where nobody is truly in control and there's no answer to the issues that have arisen. Plus, at that point, nobody really knows why the whole thing started in the first place.

But, how can this happen? How does it get to this boiling point? Well, let's imagine you're driving down the
road minding your own business when suddenly another driver cuts in front of you and this results in you having to slam on the brakes suddenly. Talk about a mood killer! Your initial reaction might be to simply curse the other driver under your breath and continue driving.

But what if you were already having a lousy day? Maybe you lost your job, or you had a disagreement with your significant other. Maybe the bills are piling up and you're losing your house. Perhaps this is the last straw for you on that day. In this case, you might speed up to the driver, and maybe you'll give him the finger, and shout out the window at him, which feeds the altercation. This might end in a car accident or a physical engagement such as a fight.

This could escalate into somebody becoming severely injured, or even dead. Then later one of the family members wants reparations and ends up taking your family or you to court. I know this seems a bit over the top, but it's not far-fetched to believe that things like this happen just about every single day in the world. The reality of it is that you and many others can control the situation's outcome by simply taking control of your emotions and how you feel.

By taking steps to remove the stress in your life or at the very least, controlling it, you'll find yourself to be in a situation where you can better control your reactions to the different scenarios that life throws your way. That's why in this brief but hopefully informative course, I'm going to detail just ten major things that I've found to help reduce the stress in my life.

You can use these however you want, apply them in different ways, and adapt them to suit your life the best way they can. If you want to reduce the stress in your life, then strap yourself in and get ready.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

https://msha.ke/yolabastos/

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

Having the Right Mindset

As you pursue to live off the grid, one thing that you should consider is to develop the right mindset. The spirit of sovereignty and dedication to attain a sustainable way of life is essential to obtain success as you go and choose off-grid living. But, you will not escape from society completely as even the self-sufficient people are obliged to pay the property taxes. 

Living off the grid means various things to various people. Some persons desire modern conveniences & huge power-generating stations. Meanwhile, other people are happier in taking one step back & living with bucolic types of food storage and heating. Going off-grid could be a pricey proposition when you try to replace the modern amenities you have today.

To develop the right mindset, you should weigh all things and make sure that you are fully prepared to live in this way. Pay attention to every aspect that must be taken into account. Look at the benefits that you can obtain from living off the grid. You should have a particular reason why you choose to practice this way of life. Use that reason as your motivation tool to achieve success.

So now, can you imagine yourself living in an off-grid style? If you are really serious about it, start focusing your attention on your goal to have the right mindset!

Finding the Right Place to Live

Living off the grid means you build a home in a place where you would not depend on the utilities available in your community. Instead, off-grid homes use different mechanisms to become independent. Some persons use the phrase “off the grid” when pertaining to living away from governmental organizations. But, in any case, the initial step to take is to find a location for a house that has the ability to sustain itself with no reliance on external assistance.

Finding the right place to live if you choose to live off the grid may not be an easy thing to do.

But, you can get a lot of help by following these steps:

1. Find a location that is situated far from the major cities. Trying to live off the grid inside a busy city is impossible. So try to find a place where you can truly feel that everything will be easy.

2. Look for land that is huge and sufficient for your needs. When you require a big deal of firewood, ensure that you have a wide land where you can get what you need. When it comes to farming, you can grow a big garden or if maintaining farm animals is a part of your whole plan, make sure that you have purchased enough territory for it.

3. You can shop for a residential property that comes with some pieces of the important water equipment you require to live off the grid. It means that you have to search for a property with a well that is in good condition. If you will be able to find a house with an installed septic system, you are one step closer to achieving a comfortable off-grid lifestyle as well.

4. Look for the property with an independent source of power. For example, you may search for a house with a wind, solar, or geothermal system that is already installed. Instead, when you find a certain location where building a house with good south front exposure to install your solar power system, you can integrate power support as time goes on.

5. Select a final location with food sources & emergency services inside an accessible space, especially when you’re not planning to grow an ample supply of food to be fully independent on your own property. Solitude and disconnection are commonly preferred by most people who choose to live off the grid but safety must be a concern as well.

To find the right place where you can truly live off the grid, you should be careful and practical in choosing. Follow these tips to avoid difficulties in selecting the best place to stay to have a comfortable off-grid lifestyle.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

https://msha.ke/yolabastos/

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

The Difference between Positive and Negative Mindset in Surrendering

When you hear someone saying “I Give Up” or “I surrender”, what comes into your mind? Maybe you will say that this person is too weak. They are too weak because they easily give up on their own situation or problem. But, this perception is not always right.

Depending on the person, they surrender because they can either have a positive or negative mindset in surrendering. In a positive way, they surrender one thing because they want something new or they don’t want to hold on to the things they don’t deserve to have.

If you are surrendering because you think that you are doing the right thing, then you have a positive mindset of surrendering. It means that you are very strong to accept reality.

The Difference

For people who keep on thinking that surrendering is an act of failure, you are extremely wrong. This negative mindset in surrendering will never help you to boost your personality. It also affects your daily actions and decision making. Instead of thinking a negative mindset in surrendering, you have to change it into a positive one. How can you do this?

Here are some tips you can try:

• Take Control of Your Brain – Everything in life can be understood. Say, for instance, if someone scolded you at work, it can be because they want you to learn or annoyed with your ignorance. To avoid negative thoughts, just pick the positive reasons. Instead of giving up your work, you have to challenge yourself and identify if it is worthy to fight for or not.


• Write Everything in Your List – Whether you want to achieve a small or big dream, you need to jot it down. This can help you in making things organized. With your positive thoughts, expect that you will get what you really want. Even if you decide to surrender, your mind is at ease and you know that you did the right thing.


• Live in the Present – People who don’t live in the present will never be happy. Say, for instance, if you experienced the worst situation in the past, you don’t have to recall it from time to time. Just use it as your motivation to become stronger. You also don’t have to accept your mistakes to have a better life.


• Accept Changes - Since everything is not permanent, you have to accept the possible changes that may happen. It means that you have to embrace the concept that change is always there. If you can’t accept it, then, you can give up or surrender. But, make sure that you are doing the right move before deciding.

With your knowledge about positive and negative mindsets in surrendering, you are guided on what to do. You can also figure out what makes your life content. Just don’t forget that surrendering doesn’t show your weak points. But, make sure that you have a good reason why you want to give up.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

https://msha.ke/yolabastos/

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

It's not Cancer, OK?!

It all started in January 2022 when I started noticing my hair falling out for no apparent reason. I wasn't anxious; I was quite happy, but I started to worry... My hair started falling out and leaving behind several layers of skin.

But, my God, now what?

Due to a haircut, I got in 2015, I don't have much hair. And will it land right here in front? This is pretty weird...

And that's how I started my research: I went to several doctor's appointments, using shampoos and lotions, but no one could tell me for sure what it was or why it was happening until one of the doctors said, "Let's do a blood test."

We were able to confirm this by blood tests, so that was the case.

I had a blood test about four weeks ago and only got the results a few days ago. So that I could find out what was happening to me.

I found out I had two new friends, Alopecia and Psoriasis.

What exactly is alopecia?

It can be caused by inheritance, hormonal changes, medical issues, or just ageing. Men are more likely than women to lose hair on their heads.

Alopecia can be transient or permanent and can affect just the scalp or the entire body.

Why is this happening to me?

Some of the research I've done and the doctors' conclusions ended up concluding that the cause is most likely because I've always lost a lot of blood during my period.

When I lose a lot of blood, I lose a lot of iron, but my body can no longer create it like it did when I was in my early twenties, and that's how alopecia developed.

I now have a very low level of iron in my body, which requires a daily intake of substantial amounts of iron, not forgetting that my diet must also be adjusted to meet the demand for iron.

I've eaten a lot of great foods that I didn't pay much attention to before, like cereal, dried fruit, vegetables, beans, and so on.

Will it, however, last indefinitely?

Great question, but irrelevant because everyone who knows me well knows my next haircut would be a shave and keep, LOL.

What exactly is psoriasis?

Psoriasis is a non-contagious, autoimmune, inflammatory skin condition. For whatever reason, the body's defence mechanism starts attacking the skin cells, resulting in damage.

So, at the same time that the alopecia set in, this acquaintance of mine practically begged me for a relationship. Coincidence?

But one thing is for sure: based on my research and what the doctors have told me, it may disappear sooner.

I switched to the third drug, which seems to be working better.

Now...

You won't ask why I'm balding or wearing wigs.

Do you understand now, or do you want to know more?

I don't like to repeat the same thing over and over again.

And I have to stay focused on my goal while also taking care of myself, my family, my co-workers and my beautiful clients. Simple.

By the way, you're welcome to watch my video of me cutting my hair... I believe I'm still missing a few pieces ahahahahahah...

Anyway,

Mama Yola is going to have to cut her hair to her scalp so no one will believe she had brain surgery, cancer or something even worse.

Let's be friends for life, this alopecia and me!

I can finally touch the light I glimpsed at the end of a long, dark tunnel for the first time.

Thank God for strength, persistence and health experts.

Gratitude to my family and dear friends who have supported me throughout my journey.

I love you all always. 

London, 26th May 2022

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder of Women Flix 

yolabastos@womenflix.org 

https://linkr.bio/lm3yq 

Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! 

Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

You Have To Envision What You Want

Most individuals never consider what they wish in their lives. They live without this knowledge or premeditation and become victims of their own condition. Work is simply about a job – to make do financially. 

Life becomes a series of troubles like choosing to live someplace because the rent is inexpensive, never realizing how to be in relationships or becoming ineffective parents. The list carries on and on.

See It

Inside you, there's a hunger for more. Is it meaning, contact or a richer understanding of life? No one has ever acquainted such individuals with the concept of perpetual possibility. “As a man thinketh, so is he.” A major mode of manifesting the life you wish is to think over what you wish out of life. What is it that you wish to do with your life?

A great exercise is to take a sheet of paper and put down the answers to the accompanying questions:

What is my deepest want?
What would I like to achieve in my lifetime?
What would I like to achieve this year?
Where would I wish to be in five years?
Where would I wish to be in twenty years?
What am I great at?

Check into all fields of your life:

• Your line of work


• Your Relationship


• Your Wellness


• Your Financial state of affairs


• How you have fun ( how you spend your vacations)

After you've put down a list of what you wish to achieve in your life, you'll need to set priorities for them. Simply take the list that you put down and provide every topic 1 - 5 points. 1 becoming the least crucial to five points becoming the most.

Now you've priorities in your life, which will help you determine where you wish your attention to be. It's an easy equation: comprehend simply that you wish to spend most of your time with the number 1 matter on your list. Spend somewhat less time with the number 2 entry on your list – and so forth for numbers 3 through 5.

There's no need to slice the day into time slots. Just by doing this exercise, you're programming your consciousness to spend time harmonizing with your list.

Let's presume you'd like to discover your life partner in the next 2 years, and that this is your chief goal, at the very top of your list. When you check into your thought process at the end of the day and you discover that you've not spent most of your spare time addressing this goal, you've a misalignment, and you might never accomplish your goal.

When this occurs merely realize it and correct it accordingly. Working all day only to sit down on your couch and watch television won't get you where you wish to be.

You have to take action to manifest your goal(s), for instance:

• Take action by signing on for class


• Enrol in a weekend seminar on a matter that fascinates you


• Go to a workshop that centres on your interest


• Spend time at places where you are able to meet individuals

If your goal happens to be that you wish to be a millionaire within 5 years, and you're spending only 5 minutes of your time every day to achieve this goal, then don't be surprised if your financial state of affairs never alters.
There's another crucial aspect of manifestation here that calls for consistency. Let's presume you've made your priority list and everything on your list feels great up to now.

It's really crucial that you're in emotional concord with your goals – they have to feel correct to you. If you merely make goals in your mind that are not useful to you then you'll discover yourself having a difficult time working to accomplish them. What occurs with most individuals' scenarios is that they've a goal that feels correct for them, and then they begin working at their goal.

Put differently, they place their attention on making their goal a fact. A couple of weeks go by and nothing occurs. Now dismay kicks in and the goal for some reason appears unreachable, the motivation is down to zilch. This is the point where you have to feel your dismay. Don't simply place it away or discount it – face it as totally and consciously as you are able to.

This may be unpleasant for you however it will help you get nearer to your goal. How is this? When you wish to alter your reality you evidently have to do something different than what you've done previously. So this is where the truth check comes in. You look around and can't see any change. But changes might have already happened in your thinking and conduct.

You might have set matters in motion that you can't yet see. Dismay sets in when you presume that matters ought to be happening sooner than you're ready for them. Remember – there are no unrealistic goals, only unrealistic time frames. So feel your dismay and let it resolve. View what you've done and realign your strategies. If one way doesn't lead to success don't quit at that point – merely attempt another.

If you stick with a goal you'll accomplish it. Occasionally you might push too hard when you simply have to let go and take the pressure off. You question yourself at this point, trusting there's nothing you are able to achieve. Go to the place in your brain where you know you can't bomb. Reading a book or viewing a motivational movie might help to get you realigned with your mighty source.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder Women Flix yolabastos@womenflix.org https://linktr.ee/yolatvbastos Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).

Mind Power Mastery: Time to Change Your Mind

This is all very good and well, but how exactly do you go about changing your mindset? How do you take back control, reclaim your happiness and start living a fulfilling and inspiring life again? The thing to do is to diagnose the problem. What exactly is wrong with your mind, to begin with? And how can you fix those issues? Well, not to alarm you, but there’s probably a lot wrong with your mind.

Don’t worry though: it’s fairly common and it’s very much a sign of the times. I can guess that you aren’t completely happy with where you are right now. Maybe you don’t like who you are right now. I know this because you’re reading this article. If what you’re doing right now is working for you then great! But if it’s not, or if it could be working better, then something needs to change.

Here are some starting points that can help you see precisely what you might need to change.

1 Responsibility

The first problem that many of us have is that we don’t take responsibility for our actions and we don’t want to take responsibility for our actions. Now we all know people who don’t like taking responsibility – they will blame others and they will make excuses for what they’ve done. These are the people with the external locusts of control that we have already discussed.

But while this might seem like an irritating problem for people around them, the reality is that this is a much deeper issue that affects them more than it does anyone else. Because a complete refusal to accept responsibility means that you also reject your own autonomy and your control. If you believe that nothing is your fault, then you also really can’t take credit for anything that goes well.

Moreover, it means that you don’t have any power over your life and it means that you can’t choose to change things.

It’s not up to you, it’s up to chance!

It gets worse too. If you are too used to avoiding responsibility, then chances are that you will avoid taking responsibility for other things in your life too. That means you’ll avoid making commitments to people, which might make you feel ‘free’ but ultimately means you get left behind as those around you settle down into relationships and find fulfilling careers.

It means you’ll put yourself forward for fewer tasks in the workplace – at least those tasks that have any major consequences. And if you aren’t responsible for large amounts of money, then you can’t expect to get paid large amounts of money either.

Being afraid of responsibility will even make you less impressive, decisive and confident in a day-to-day scenario. When someone asks you to make a decision, you won’t want to because you won’t want to be responsible for what happens if you get it wrong.

And unfortunately, life has made it all too easy for us to learn this lack of responsibility. We are sheltered by so much technology and for the most part, life has become much easier. Our childhoods have also become extended to a massive degree and especially in the current generation of youths.

These days many of us will stay at school until we are 18 and will then attend college for 3, 4 or 6 years after that depending on the number of qualifications we obtain. Throw in a gap year and sometimes ‘finding our feet and many of us don’t begin our careers until we’re in our mid-to-late-twenties.

This was exacerbated by the economic crash of the last decade. Many people leaving college struggled to find work, which left them without workplace responsibilities and very often still living with their parents. Generations previous were likely married homeowners with children at this point.

And it’s hard to ditch this mentality. It’s hard to stop being a perpetual child. And while there are positive sides to this (it’s good for creativity, for dreaming and for enjoyment in the moment), ultimately life will catch up and we won’t be prepared. We are too soft mentally to cope with the challenges that will come our way. We’ve lost the ability to be decisive, strong, action-takers.

What can you do to fix it? We’ll explore this in more depth in some of the other reports but the key to acknowledge is that you must learn to accept the possibility of a less-than-perfect outcome. Accept that there will be times when things go wrong and it’s your fault.  And when that does happen, be willing to put your hand up and admit it. That’s what it means to be an adult. And that’s what will give you the strength to start taking more chances and making more bold decisions.

#2 We Care Too Much What Others Think

Ultimately, number one comes down to doing away with fear. This is another topic we’re going to address more over the coming reports but for now let’s hone in on one very specific example of fear, one very specific cause. That is that we care too much about what others think.

This is something that occupies a lot of our thoughts for many of us and something that can actually be quite tiring. Many of us will simply not do something if we think it is going to make us look unusual. If we think it will elicit stares.

Not only that but caring too much about what others think is what makes it so hard for us to take responsibility for things: we don’t want to seem to be weak or to lose the trust or respect of other people. Do you know what the biggest irony of this is? It is the refusal to take action and take responsibility that actually makes people lose respect. This is what makes us appear weaker.

Many of us also struggle to go after the things that we want in life because we are too busy worrying about pleasing others. We’re so busy saying yes to invitations that we don’t really want to go to and spending money on things that we think we should own, that we don’t have the resources left to spend on things that really matter to us. And this of course greatly limits what we are capable of and the quality of our lives.

Now I’m not telling you to forget other people entirely and to become an ass. That’s certainly not going to improve your life!

But learn the subtle difference:

• Care if other people are happy


• Don’t care what other people think of you

This is the most heroic mindset because it means you’ll do kind things for people without even telling anyone and even be willing to make yourself look foolish. But at the same time, you’ll be much happier because you won’t be living up to the expectations that you believe other people to have.

You’ll be able to take more responsibility for yourself and you’ll have one less huge thing causing you stress.
So how do you make the switch? It is easier said than done of course but the key to getting started is to stop holding yourself to the standards of others and to start holding yourself only to your own standards. Judge yourself on your own terms and by your own code of conduct.

3 We Are Impulsive and Reactive

Perhaps the biggest symptom of modern life is just how badly impulsive and reactive we have become. And this really is something that has been exacerbated by modern technologies and convenience. Did you know that our attention span has measurably deteriorated over recent decades?

The reigning view is that this is caused by time spent on the internet. When we read a blog post we can skip across the headlines and the bullet points and then stop reading. Often we’ll get our information from YouTube or Twitter – which is limited to only 140 characters! When we find the piece of information we want, we can close the tab and search for the next thing.

It will be there in seconds! We’ve become very good at quickly skimming and assimilating information but we’ve trained ourselves out of sustaining our attention and concentrating. And this is then made a lot worse by all the other things vying for our attention and all the other immediate gratification we get. We have all the food, all the entertainment, all the gratification we could possibly need right at our fingertips.

Much of it is free. And much of it can be served up in seconds depending on your internet speed. Adverts are designed with bright colours and attractive faces to grab our attention. There is noise everywhere. And thus we have become incredibly reactive. Every one of these distractions that leads to rewarding will trigger a dopaminergic response. Eating a sweet, loading up PornHub, playing a computer game, watching a YouTube video.

This reinforces the same pathways in the brain that are present in addicts. And it completely undermines our ability to control our attention and to decide what we want to look at. How we want to behave. So, when we sit down to work towards a massive deadline, it should come as no surprise that the first thing we do is check Facebook. And make tea. And grab a snack.

How do you get out of this rut? There are a few ways and again, we’re going to delve deeply into all of this. But one of the simplest fixes is to try meditation. Meditation teaches us to take conscious control of our mind, to be more at the moment and to avoid distractions. This can help us to become incredibly more disciplined and focused and can certainly do away with a lot of procrastination and impulsivity.

4 We Are Lazy and Tired

The other big problem that prevents us from achieving what we want and that causes a whole lot of unhappiness is laziness. Most of us know what we should be doing but we lack the effort to do it. When given a choice, we will take the easier route. In the short term, this is great. It means you get to spend the evening on the couch with a bag of chips watching your favourite trashy TV.

But in the long term, it means you lack the stimulus for growth. And guess what? Growth is perhaps the most important thing we need to be happy. Because you are never still and stable. If you are not going forward, you are going backwards. If you are not growing, you are regressing. If you don’t exercise then your muscles atrophy. But likewise, if you don’t use your brain and if you don’t challenge your mind, then your brain physically shrinks.

Worse, you unlearn how to apply effort. But part of this is not laziness. Part of this is stress and tiredness. Because the problem is that we typically lead such busy, stressful and fast-paced lives that we simply have no energy left at the end of the day to do anything about it. Is it any surprise? Most of us commute to work for 30-90 minutes on a train or bus or sit in traffic in the car.

We then fight our way through a busy street into the office where we sit in a cramped, stuffy room and get shouted at by clients and unhappy customers. We work to urgent deadlines and end up staying late, then we make the precise same commute back home. You can add malnutrition on top of this for many of us. Halogen lights too. Loud noises. Air pollution.

All these things upset the body and cause physiological stress. These put us further into the fight or flight state and the body simply can’t tell the difference. This exhausts us. And that’s what makes us choose the fast food in the cupboard and it’s what makes us skip the workout. It’s also what causes us to argue with our partners and not have time for our kids. And it’s not even time that’s the issue here so much as energy.

Your psychological energy is a finite resource. So, the first thing you need to do is to start buying yourself more energy. That might mean looking into easier ways into work, or it might mean swapping to an easier job. It means finding space in your life so that you can stop reacting and being in fight or flight. You can start to become proactive and make your way onto your inspired path.

Written by Yola Bastos Co-Founder Women Flix yolabastos@womenflix.org https://linktr.ee/yolatvbastos Women Flix, Supporting Women all the way to Success! Women Flix Limited, a company limited by guarantee, was incorporated in England and Wales (company no. 13047578 ).